To the Momma Who Is Doing the Best She Can

Dear Momma,

I know you are doing the best you can. I know that your children are your biggest priority. I know that you work hard and dig deep inside you every day to give them the love and care they need and deserve. I know that, above all else, you want happy, healthy and loved lives for them.

But, I also know some days and times are hard. There are parts of this parenting journey that stretch us and make us question who we are as people and role models for these little ones that were so miraculously entrusted to us. And even more, there are parts of life that nearly break us and leave us feverishly searching for strength and hope. Different seasons of life require different levels of energy, effort and feelings from us. And this season may just be asking for all of you.

Right now it may feel like you’re being pulled in 100 directions, making you question what to do or tackle first. Or, maybe it’s just one struggle, but that one thing is taking everything you have and dominating your physical and mental energy. In these moments, just making sure your babes get hugs, love and three meals a day can seem like a monumental task.


So, I want to remind you, don’t forget to show yourself love and grace. Be kind and patient with yourself. Trust in yourself and remember that it won’t be this way for long. In no time, you will be yourself and have a grip on your world again. Until then, allow yourself to not have it all together and to take your time to search for the right answers.

It’s so strange how hard we can be on ourselves. We don’t offer ourselves the same forgiveness or kindness that we would extend to others when they are struggling. We say the meanest things to ourselves and hold ourselves to unreal expectations. Your giving what you have and offering what you can. And,  the truth is, you’re doing better than you think.


Your family can see this. They see the good and deep love that resides within you. They understand what you are going through and that it is only temporary. They know, just like them, you sometimes have bad days, too. They love you more than anyone in this world and are cheering you on through this challenge. They know deep down, just like I know, all of the things you want for them and just how important they are to you.

Some days and times are hard. And the best you can give is the little you’ve got. That has to be okay. This day will pass. And tomorrow, or the next day, or the next day, you will be full and ready to offer all of your love and joy to the world. And, in the end, that is all your children will remember.


Love, Kerstin

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