Knee deep in wedding season, I wanted to take a moment to send a public service announcement through this awesome communication tool I now have! This is an issue I am sometimes equally guilty of myself. R-E-S-P-E-C-T the RSVP. Summarizing, in case anyone doesn’t know or has forgotten, it means respond to the sender letting them know if you will be accepting or declining the invitation.
RSVPs are especially important for big events like weddings. When Seano and I got married, we invited nearly 500 people (actually I should say together, with our parents, we invited 500 people) and only about half RSVPed without being prompted. In final, we had about 320 RSVPs including both accepting and declining parties. About 350-375 people attended our wedding. That means we had 50-75 people we weren’t prepared for. We survived because we had a cocktail and heavy hors d’oeuvre reception but I can’t imagine how that would have gone if we would have had a plated dinner.
RSVPs are also important to me for smaller gatherings. They affect how much food is purchased and made, how many favors are bought and put together, what games are played, how the space is laid out, and how seating is arranged, just to name a few. If someone asks for an RSVP, it is, most likely, because they are planning something that a headcount will influence. You should RSVP if you are attending or if you are declining. Some people think they don’t need to RSVP if they won’t be attending. But really, you just leave the party planner wondering if you’re coming. And I’ll be honest, I’ve had a few awkward conversations, both as the host and as the guest, when I’ve had to follow up with someone or been followed up with about an RSVP. “What? No, I’m not pressuring you to come to my party.” = Awkward
With that said, make your RSVP channels easy for people. Provide a couple of options so people can communicate in whatever way is easiest for them. But please RSVP either way. I love party planning but it sure makes my planning easier and better when I know how many people to count on. That is all for now.
Thoughts on the RSVP? Am I missing the mark?