It’s nice to meet you/know you.
Honestly, at this point, probably only my mom, mother-in-law, and best friends are reading this post. But I still thought an introduction was appropriate as some of the details I will choose to share during this journey are personal, my stories and experiences are unique to me, and the choices I have made definitely affect who I am and who I continue to become. I think it will also be interesting to document who I feel I am today, so I can look back years from now and see how I’ve changed and, hopefully, grown.
I am incredibly positive. I do see reality but through a glass-half-full perspective. I prefer this to being negative which ultimately just puts me in a funk.
My family and friends are my breath and the best part of living. They are simply the most important influence on my life and I am happiest when I am with them. I do my best to never take them for granted and to them, I am fiercely loyal and vulnerable.
My son has changed me. I was happy with who I was before but now I want to be so much more. And even though it is hard, because at times I do seem unrecognizable to myself, I no longer want to be who I was. I have some clarity on what is important and who I really want to and can realistically be. I’m settling into this, and continually evolving.
I’m incredibly communicative and an over planner. Both put me at ease and allow me to navigate internal and external conflict when needed. In others’ eyes, these things make me a little crazy. I am aware of this and how others can find me exhausting, demanding, and, sometimes, hard to be around. I’m learning how to be softer and trying to be more relaxed. A work in progress!
As of today, being a stay-at-home mom is not for me. I’m proud of my education and career. I am happy to be an equal partner in supporting our family and home. With two working partners, we can offer Baby N more opportunities. While I have a constant internal battle about the need to be with him more, at this point, I am not prepared to give these things up. I respect women who choose to be stay-at-home moms, as I believe it is one of the most challenging and demanding jobs around, and I hope they can also respect my choice.
I am faith-filled. I am full of faith and believe things happen for a reason. I don’t always see the reason as I am experiencing something but later I can usually look back and see how that experience brought me to where I am or what I learned from it. Faith, more than religion, is at the center of our lives and our marriage. And this is where my strength comes from.
My husband and dad are the greatest men I have ever known. I promise you that I did not “marry my father” as there are many, many differences between them. However, they are both compassionate, patient with me, and wonderful fathers.
My mom is my best friend and I have been blessed with the most amazing women in my life. My mom is my rock, my giggle, my secret keeper, and so much more. She was one of my matron of honor’s, spent three weeks with us after Baby N was born, and has never been apart from me on my birthday in 31 years, even despite our distance the last 13. As if that doesn’t make me lucky enough, I have handfuls of women I consider best friends and confidants.
My favorite saying is “to each their own.” Why judge each other? I put enough pressure on myself, I certainly don’t need it from anyone else. This saying reminds me to only concentrate on what is right for my family and eases my mind when I’m feeling inadequate or questioning a decision we have made.
I’m a lifelong learner. I believe in continually evolving, learning from experience, and educating my mind. This includes everything from reading, taking community and continuing education class at our local college, visiting with experts and strangers, and taking a moment where I can learn or see a new perspective.
I love to shop, craft, drink coffee, and cook! These days, I’m lucky if I manage to do more than one of these a week (except for drinking coffee, thank goodness). They make me happy, help clear my head, and sometimes offer me personal time. I also like to ski, scuba dive, and take photos (even though I still need LOTS of practice with all of these).
A few other details. I’m 5’8”; wear a size 9.5/10 shoe; lived in California and Iowa growing up; graduated from Iowa State University (it’s the Cyclones not the Hawks!) with a B.A. in Journalism and Mass Communications with an Emphasis in Public Relations and a Minor in Speech Communication and English (longest degree ever!); have one brother, two nieces, and a nephew; and plan on spending the rest of my life in Wyoming (while traveling lots of places of course).
Things I wish I could tell you about myself. I wish I paid more attention to my health and made this a constant priority; I wish I didn’t feel such a strong conflict between work and my family; I wish I cared less about what people think, and I wish I didn’t let fear stop me. I am a work in progress and will try to focus on these things throughout the next year and into the future.
Thanks for reading my rambling and over indulgent introduction. What are some of the qualities you know or most value about yourselves? Anything else you want to know that I didn’t share?