Category Archives: Tantrums

Let’s Talk About this Sensitive, Controversial Topic for Mom Friends

A while back, I got together with a group of friends, mostly moms, and the topic came up about disciplining other people’s children. Everyone seemed to have very different opinions on this. It makes sense that there were such a wide variety of responses; raising children is about the most personal, vulnerable thing you can do. As parents, we make what seems like hundreds of decisions a day that impact who our children are becoming. We are trying our best and doing what we believe is right. However, we all raise our kids our own way and have different standards for discipline within our home and families. What is right and what is tolerated in one home, is not in another. As Big Brother N gets older and is gradually with friends and grandparents more, this topic continues to stay on the top of my mind. Continue reading

A Dad’s Dilemma: Why is this Kid Crying?

Over the past few years, Kerstin has approached me several times about doing a guest blog for Jelly Bean Journals. I love her like a sister; she and her family are an extension of my own. But I always seem to fall short when it comes to a topic, and it makes me feel as though I’m letting her down. FINALLY, this evening as I was getting my oldest son ready for bed, the topic for this blog struck me like a lightning bolt. Continue reading

Frustrating Parent Lessons

It’s major confession time. If you aren’t prepared to share in the frustration of raising a toddler, today’s post probably isn’t for you. If you are still reading, please remember that I love my son just like any mother loves their child. As I partly shared in Loving Life with a Toddler: The Things I Most Appreciate Today there are countless Continue reading

Coping with Toddler Tantrums

One of our good girlfriends recently asked me about tantrums. Her toddler is close in age to Baby A and this prompted me to consider the process we use when he is acting out. Although all toddlers are different and there are many philosophies, ideas, tactics and tricks to working through tantrums, I want to share the revolving process that has worked well for us. Continue reading

Love Him As He Is Today

When N was about 14 months, he was having horrible tantrums. As a first time mom I was unsure if these were normal in quantity and/or scale and nothing we seemed to be trying at home was working. One of the first places I went for advice was to Ms. E, the owner/teacher at N’s daycare/preschool. In addition to our own moms, she has become a great resource for us. She has provided amazing care to dozens of children and N spends 30-40 hours a week in her program so she knows him pretty darn well. Anyway, I went to her, incredibly frustrated, looking for any suggestions she had to minimize or get rid of these tantrums. During our conversation she mentioned something that stuck out to me. She said, “You have to love him for exactly who he is today.” She wasn’t suggesting we support these tantrums or indulge them, but just that there was a bigger picture to our current situation. Continue reading