Trust me, I know “sending my baby to preschool” posts are a dime a dozen. I have read and loved so many over the years. As I process this big step with my first born and prepare to send him to preschool in a couple of days, I am flooded with emotion. So, I understand why this is such a common topic. The contradiction between wanting our babies to stay little forever so we can protect them and wanting to watch them grow and succeed is so real.
So, as I send him off to preschool, I hope he knows:
You are so capable.
Little boy, you are so, so capable. You show me on a regular basis that you are ready for more than what I expect. Sometimes, it’s all I can do to sit on my hands and let you show me how you can manage the task at hand all by yourself. After, I see the look of pride and accomplishment in your eyes and on your face, and I know that the conflict in my heart is so worth it. But, remember, you will only know how capable you are if you continue to try. Believe in yourself, challenge yourself, be curious and work hard and you will undoubtedly succeed. In the moments you are struggling, know you bring so many special things to this world and you do not have to perfect to be incredible.
You are loved beyond measure.
I always struggle to find words that equally articulate how wide and deep you’re loved. It is a feeling that I can never quite communicate effectively. There are so many people who love you, would do anything for you, praying for you, cheering you on, ready to lend a hand when you need it, and look forward to celebrating your victories. You will never be short on people who want the best for you and our goal is to always make you know you are so loved.
If you’re kind and respectful, you will always win.
People will always remember how you treat them. And, more than anything, you will always remember and you have to live with yourself. It is not worth being rude or mean to get what you want. When you are kind and respectful, you will be proud of yourself and leave conversations and interactions feeling like you did the right thing. Be careful not confuse this advice with being soft or timid. Having tough conversations and navigating challenging situations AND being kind and respectful can be mutually exclusive. This advice applies equally to yourself as it is does others.
As a family, we can work together through anything.
I can only dream what life will offer you in the coming years. While I hope it’s mostly wonderful and rewarding, I also am realistic that there will be challenges and fears along the way. Together, as a family, we can work through anything. Your dad and I will always be your biggest fans and have open arms, ears and hearts.
Not being good at something is not a reason to give up.
It’s unlikely you will be good at everything. So, don’t give up because you’re sturggling. This is something it took me far too long to learn. And I want to help you learn it early, before you spend years expecting unrealistic perfection from yourself. Many things will require patience and practice. With persistence and hard work, you will get better. And who knows, you may find joy and passion where you least expect it!
There is great joy to be found in trying new things and meeting new people.
Although trying new things and meeting new people can sometimes feel uncomfortable, it is so worth it. You will find new friends and things you love when you are willing to take a chance. School is going to bring so many new opportunities and I hope you stay “brave,” just like you always tell me you are.
I am so proud of who you are becoming.
Watching your personality grow and blossom has been more fun than I ever expected! Boy, do I love who you are becoming. You are this beautiful balance of passion and calm; laughter and seriousness; playful and sweet; distracted and focused; and curious and unconcerned. Most of all, I love how you love. You are so thoughtful when others are hurting and always look for a way to make them feel better. And you are unlimited with your hugs and giggles, at least when it comes to your momma. Continue to be uncompromising in who you are and who you want to be.
I am so proud to be your mommy and am thrilled to have a front row seat to watch you grow and learn. Good luck baby!