I’m a working mommy and about 20% of my career responsibilities include spending time on the road or away from home. During Baby A’s first year of life it felt like my heart was being ripped out each time I left him and before he was born I had a very difficult time saying goodbye to my husband. I just miss them both when I have to be away.
Most often I try to Continue reading
N was three days overdue. It is hysterical to me now, that at the time, these three days felt like months. Beginning a week before he was due, I started pouting and moping around like having to wait for my baby was the biggest inconvenience in the world! Partly due to this attitude but also because I was so uncomfortable, I decided to begin my maternity leave immediately after my due date, baby or no baby. I was due on a Friday. On Sunday evening, realizing I had a bad attitude and that this moping wasn’t doing anyone any good, I decided to take advantage of the free time I would have before the baby came. I made a list of all of the things I was going to due on Monday – chores, errands, and more baby prep. I felt relieved and refreshed after I made this commitment. The only problem: I was too late. I went into labor at 3 am on Monday morning. In hindsight, here’s what I would tell my pouting self to do the day before I had my baby.
Take a Breath and be Patient
One of our good girlfriends recently asked me about tantrums. Her toddler is close in age to Baby A and this prompted me to consider the process we use when he is acting out. Although all toddlers are different and there are many philosophies, ideas, tactics and tricks to working through tantrums, I want to share the revolving process that has worked well for us. Continue reading
On Tuesday, I shared A Letter to My Son on His 2nd Birthday. These annual letters have become an important tradition to me. Another tradition we started from the week N was born included taking his photo on a different piece of fabric each week (it turned into each month when he turned 1). I hang them up every year at N’s birthday party. Our guests love looking at how he’s changed over the year.
Here are the photos from the last year (scroll down to see photos from last year).
N turned two on October 15. For those of you saying, “Two already?!?” Yes, yes, he’s two already. Earlier this year, I shared A Letter to My 1 Year Old on His Birthday. This is a tradition I started in the journal I kept during my pregnancy with N and I plan to write N a letter on his birthday each year. I hope you enjoy this year’s letter to my little monkey!
Another year has flown by! And you are turning two today!
You probably remember reading in one of my first posts that fall is my favorite time of year. There are so many wonderful things about this season including Halloween. I have a special love for creatively dressing up and it has become even more fun now that we are parents. For baby A’s first Halloween we dressed up as a group of mummies. For his second Halloween we were a Wizard of Oz family and he was our cute lion. Continue reading
During our guest blog series, Jessi shared some candid thoughts in The Someday Scenario about preparing for a future life with children. It helped me revisit that same place in my journey before Daddy D and I decided to conceive. We all know that having a baby means life changes in every way possible. Over the years, I’ve heard the phrase, “you can’t fully understand until you experience it.” It used to be hard for me to accept this as an answer to, well, anything! I believe I’m competent and empathetic, so I sometimes took offense when others didn’t think I could comprehend an experience without living through it. I’ve learned that there is something to participating in life altering situations that helps me understand more than through explanation. It’s the first hand experience and emotions that affect everyone differently and teach us. It has nothing to do with a person’s competency or ability to relate and I have become a believer in this saying. I catch myself thinking or saying it more often than I’d like to admit these days. Continue reading
One of the ways I make life easier on our family during the week is by sometimes making a couple meals on the weekend that we can grab and eat during the week. Breakfast can get awfully boring at our house as we look for food to grab. To add a little variety, this tends to be a meal I focus on during my weekend cook offs.
One of my favorite go to breakfasts these days is baked oatmeal. Continue reading
When N was about 14 months, he was having horrible tantrums. As a first time mom I was unsure if these were normal in quantity and/or scale and nothing we seemed to be trying at home was working. One of the first places I went for advice was to Ms. E, the owner/teacher at N’s daycare/preschool. In addition to our own moms, she has become a great resource for us. She has provided amazing care to dozens of children and N spends 30-40 hours a week in her program so she knows him pretty darn well. Anyway, I went to her, incredibly frustrated, looking for any suggestions she had to minimize or get rid of these tantrums. During our conversation she mentioned something that stuck out to me. She said, “You have to love him for exactly who he is today.” She wasn’t suggesting we support these tantrums or indulge them, but just that there was a bigger picture to our current situation. Continue reading
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